Natural Family Planning: One Man's Beautiful Testimony
Comparing this chart to her previous 3 years worth of charts, I couldn't find a single instance where this had occurred. Usually with this kind of a dip, the temperature goes really low and then the next day it shifts up and stays high because after ovulation occurs, the progesterone becomes the dominant hormone which causes the basal temperature to rise higher than the pre-ovulation temperatures and stays high until the next cycle is about to start.
I was wondering why I was seeing this weird anomaly in my wife's chart when it occurred to me as I was getting ready for bed. She was trying to ovulate but it wasn't happening because she was probably stressed, which as all women know, can cause you to have a longer cycle.
So as she laid in bed I asked my wife, "how are you?" It's a very open ended question that I learned from taking psychology, is meant to get somebody to start talking about what is affecting them. She replied, "I hate my job." And it wasn't the words that she said, but how pained and sad she sounded when she answered me. The next morning she told me she couldn't sleep because all of the things that stressed her about her job was on her mind.
She had mentioned things here and there in the weeks leading up to that question. But even she didn't realize how much it was negatively affecting her until I asked about it.
I knew my wife was in a low place, and what's more, I realized that for months she had been giving me hints and clues about this struggle she was having, and I hadn't noticed.
The next day, I made sure to make the bed (because I don't always do that). I left work early and stopped by Crave Cupcakes (super delicious and expensive cupcakes). I bought some flowers, and wrote my wife a letter telling her how much I love her and what a great teacher she is.
I left everything on the bed, because I knew she would be stressed and usually wants to take a nap when she gets home from work.
In addition to all of this, I took out the trash, cleaned the living room, and washed the dishes. (Whew!).
While all of these acts didn't solve my wife's problems, it did give her emotional support and confidence; and it gave me a chance to do what a husband is supposed to do: make his wife feel how much she is loved by her husband.
There is another benefit to all of this too; her body got to ovulating and for those of us who practice NFP, this meant we could make love without having to worry about getting pregnant while we try and get out of debt frist.
Some people today think of NFP as the rhythm method, but we in NFP circles refer to it as "Russian roulette."
Today's NFP uses so much science and there are different methods using the same fertility signs so we even have reliable options now.
I never expected NFP would help me understand what is really going on with my wife. The truth is, had we not been charting, I would have never asked what was going on, and months down the road my wife would feel like I was out of touch with her needs, and she would feel alone. I know this from the experiences we've gone through in marriage.
I learned NFP because I was willing to think outside the box, in a way that is different from those members in society who are failing in marriage so my wife and I could have the best chances of staying married until death do us part.
I learned NFP because I was assured that it works. I didn't expect it would help our marriage the way it has, but you won't hear me complain. Nor will you hear my wife complain. Now if I could just do a better job of making the bed EVERY morning!!!
My name is James, and I use NFP because it helps keep me out of the dog house, and in bed with my wife, where I belong.
James and Whitney Cueva live in Houston, TX where they teach Natural Family Planning, RCIA, and Engaged Encounter. They have been happily married for two years and enjoy sharing God's love and hope for the Sacrament of Marriage and their rewarding experience of practicing Natural Family Planning in their lives. If you have questions about Natural Family Planning you can reach them via email at NFPJames@yahoo.com or on twitter @NFPJames.
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Pope Benedict XVI's Prayer Intentions for January 2013
General Intention: The Faith of Christians. That in this Year of Faith Christians may deepen their knowledge of the mystery of Christ and witness joyfully to the gift of faith in him.
Missionary Intention: Middle Eastern Christians. That the Christian communities of the Middle East, often discriminated against, may receive from the Holy Spirit the strength of fidelity and perseverance.
Keywords: Marriage, Natural Family Planning, husband, wife, divorce, NFP
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