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Catholic, Gay, and Feeling Fine, Thanks: Part 1 Comments

The persecution and bigotry from both sides of the issue proceed, partly, from misunderstanding. Steve Gershom's simultaneous Catholicity and SSA are what is so compelling about his message. Ultimately he beautifully illustrates the tension between the beauty of faith and honest acknowledgment of the frail, wounded humanity in which we all live without pretending it does not exist or giving it sway over him. Continue Reading

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  1. ls
    2 years ago

    I suppose the next thing we should be concerned about understanding and accepting properly will be UAA - under-age attraction.

  2. Bulbajer
    2 years ago

    Kathy... temptation is not a sin. Giving in to temptation is. Having said that, I'm not convinced that homosexual acts are any more sinful than heterosexual acts in general. But I respect this man a lot.

  3. ls
    2 years ago

    I agree with Kelly, I don't buy it either. Come on, 'Catholic, Gay and Feeling Fine'? Really? Seriously? The Enemy will stop at nothing to mislead God's people and distort the truth. The correct term is homosexual, not Gay. What is the purpose of such a story on a Catholic website anyway? Are we supposed to be educated and more accepting of this sin by reading about Steve's struggle and what a nice guy he is? Are we giving equal time on how to love and accept the sin of alcholics, pedaphiles, thieves, dishonest politicians, rapists, people with a pornography problem, wifebeaters, etc, etc? Are we supposed to be surprised that we may be sitting next to one at church on sunday and not know it?

  4. Anonymous
    2 years ago

    Follow up to my previous comment:

    The first two responses illustrate why I have tagged myself anonymous and struggle in silence. They have no experience with this, but place judgement.

    Kathy, temptation is not a sin. Jesus was tempted by Satan. Sin is giving in to the temptation. I will be tempted by this my entire life. My love for God and for my wife are what will help me fight it. "when a person does something against God..." indicates that he has moved from temptation into action, which he has not. He fights boldly.

    Judy, medical problems is not what this is about. It is about a spiritual struggle. And if we live appropriately, we should struggle spiritually until we die. If we have no spiritual struggles, then we have given up on perfecting ourselves. A priest once counseled my that the closer to Christ we are, the more Satan will tempt us. The closer to Christ-like we become, the more we see our faults and failings. Calling it SSA isn't a medical cop out, it is a way of saying that I am a person who God created, wonderfully as the psalm says, and this temptation is a part of that. As my cross, it is a blessing...the thorn that St Paul talks about...that will allow my to show my God that I love Him more. This cross is a part of me and is not sin unless I allow it to be.

    To everyone, each person on this Earth has been given a cross they must overcome in order to unite our sufferings to Christ on the cross and to prove our love to our Father. Some people gossip. Others are weak in the face of money, earthly stability or power. Some are given SSA. Unfortunately, SSA is a double edged sword in a heartless world. No where to turn. We are attacked by the GLBTQ community for not being ourselves. We are shunned by the Christian community when we expose how deeply SSA runs. If we are blessed, we find someone who supports us, as I have. Christians, step up to the plate. We are you and you are us. My temptation is no different than yours.

  5. abey
    2 years ago

    'Catholic, gay & feeling fine---". Some where along these words the word Sin or Sinful is removed or more like replaced with "Feeling fine". Unknowingly,even Knowingly some people do thank the devil, Signified by today's feel good /Apostate preachings who by omitting or twisting biblical words catering more to the lusts of the flesh with many an innocent not knowing that on the other side of such words stands satan saying "Welcome to hell". Suppose, Jesus was not joking when he spoke of hell. Sentimentalism does not help to solve unnatural relations & any one being proud about it ,is sheer hypocrisy, because they do not speak the truth about their own conscience. GOD was not sentimental when he dealt with Sodom. Let us not be holier than God, like the 2 pagan religions of Hinduism/Buddhism, where one projects its self as mightier than god where as the other holier than god respectively. Catholics need to care not to fall into the ways of the Anglicans, its episcopals & others. Testing times.

  6. Kathy
    2 years ago

    Sorry, i don't buy into it at all. It totally goes against everything that Christianity stands for. He maintains his celibacy, which is good, but the heart is what God sees. If he is lusting in his heart for men or women for that fact, then it is a sin. But, I see it as a greater sin. When a person does something that goes against what God has created, then he/she is saying that what God made is not good enough for lthem.

  7. Judy
    2 years ago

    The First part of this interviewed article was interesting. Even though this Catholic admits that he is gay, or SSA as he rather call it, Steve is NOT your typical G. person. He is celibate. That to me, separates him entirely. I truly support him for recognizing his circumstance and Staying w/the Church's teaching, until science, or some other branch of academia, informs and/or proves to her otherwise. I have seen a few education medical documentaries, that are quite informing as to why one may be predisposed to this way of life/feeling...To which I begin to understand. My rejection to SSA, is that I have not been convinced that there are as many people w/a legitimate medical problem. Most GL I see or know, appear to Choose that style of living as a matter of personal Choice. I really don't know that there are that many born w/a medical condition vs. those just choosing that lifestyle for whatever reason they choose to manufacture. Those GL that flaunt it, are absolutely sickening to me. Do I, or did I, ever flaunt the lifestyle I Chose? No. And why not? Because it was not necessary. Why do some GL feel it so necessary? It doesn't help their cause, in my opinion. Real evidence of a real medical problem does and would. Then Wisdom will tell us where to go from there. That said, I am open to the understanding for some, of a medical problem. However, I will always be opposed to Equal Marriage. That is between man and woman. I will always be against GL rearing children. Experience has shown me, no good can come from it. Blessings...

  8. Anonymous
    2 years ago

    This message is so important. As a married catholic man with ssa and heterosexual attractions this is the first time I have seen this issue discussed thoughtfully, compassionately and realistically. If, in fact, each of us have a cross to carry, one that has been given to us by God, then this too is a cross. The secular world would call me a closeted bisexual, though I have never been with a man. The reality is that the only people who know the truth are myself, my wife and my priest. I have felt for ages that I needed to make my walk public so that others who felt alone could see that they are not. But I know for a fact that I would never work as a teacher in a catholic school, or volunteer for youth functions, or hold a public position in my parish...people equate SSA with pedophilia no matter how many theologians and psychologists prove they are not the same. I applaud Steve for coming forward and sharing his story. I hope that one day I have the courage to share mine.


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